LPT: Sleep with 2 sets of blankets if you share a bed
I can’t tell you how many times I had ended up with little to no blankets after sleeping 4 four hours. Eventually, spouse and I decided that we would get two full-size blankets for the bed so that we could each have one. This has prevented so many restless nights.
Oh yes, we do that too. We both have a 2x2 m duvet. He comes on my side and gets warm( he is the one with cold feet and hands in the family) and gets sleepy while I play with his hair, and then slides under his cover to sleep. I like to „cocoon“ myself sometimes and I also sleep like a frog with my legs flexed. And if one of us snores too badly or has a cold, one of us sleeps on the sofa in the living room, which I built especially because I wanted to use a mattress there, so it is comfy for sleeping.
We did find once in France a big bad with a very big duvet on top, we could sleep comfortably under that single one without touching even if we wanted.
A good night sleep is essential for the happiness of the marriage and the rest of life. There is no shame in making it work for you. I heard some say 2 sinks are essential, but in our case I think 2 toilets would be great.
I'd have murdered someone years ago if I shared my blanket with my husband. We have a king bed, but like to be at opposite sides for sleeping. And I like to pull the edge of the blanket under my chin. Which means I'm pulling it off him and leaving him annoyed. No no, we each have our own and can cuddle the blanket all we want. And I can hide cats under my blankets.
Next level: Separate bedrooms. Fight the social stigma that this would somehow mean there's a problem in the relationship and accept that most people get better sleep when not next to someone else. Also helps sharing the sleep disruption when the kids are young and climb into the bed at night for whatever reasons.
Look at money man made of money with extra bedrooms just lying around full of money
We have started using the spare room whenever one of us has a cold, has a different schedule, or we have something important the next day. But for other nights the simple pleasure of waking up next to one another is worth a small dip in sleep quality.
Queen sized bed. King sized blankets.
I do king bed with twin duvets.
Emperor sized pillows. Sovereign sized sheets.
In some countries, Germany, Sweden, etc., people have been doing this for a very long time. 1 bed 2 duvets.
My wife and I have been doing two single duvets on our queen bed after doing it at an Airbnb in Germany
And it remains a mystery to me why anyone would want to share a blanket (other than for cuddles).
Yep. I am Swedish and can confirm this. It's mighty annoying when we're traveling abroad and the hotel will only supply one blanket. My gf tends to roll around in her sleep and steal everything.
I'm a really light sleeper and my lass snores like a diesel generator or something.
Two duvets definitely solved that issue, moving to sheets in summer as it gets too sweltering.
Two duvets, four pillows.
Not actually taken to moving to another room when the snoring is too much, I'm not working yet so it's not like I have to be up for anything.
Maybe letting the rabbit out but that's about it
i only discovered this 10 years ago
i felt like i'd discovered dna or something
Yes I can confirm it works. Source: am currently in king size bed in my own 10tog single duvet whilst my husband is snoring away in his 13tog duvet. It's also great that you get to pick the warmth of your bedding !
Not to one-up, but we went with two blankets, along with two beds and two rooms. Never looked back. Game-changer if you've got the space.
I’ve considered this. Some people could take offense to being asked to sleep separately I imagine.
I've always had an issue sleeping next to someone unless it was on accident. Like, falling asleep on the couch for example. But I can't do it on purpose. A mix of not being able to get comfortable and what I can only describe as being self conscious about how I sleep make it nearly impossible. Also, I move in my sleep. Having someone else in the bed has always made things more complicated.
I always have that at the start of a new relationship. But for me it goes away after a few weeks. i absolutely get beeing self conscious. Do i sleep weird? Am I breathing in a strange rhythm?
This has been spoken about a lot in our household and I wish the day would come sooner. Sadly I doubt we will have the money to afford anywhere with more space anytime soon so I'll be sleeping like shit until then. Sleeping in the same bed as someone else is over rated!
Been doing this for 15ish years. Spouse likes to burrito, I toss and turn. And due to that I need a queen blanket so it doesn't matter which edge is up. With a full I've got a 50 50 chance of ending up with the long side around my shoulders and my feet in the breeze.
3 full/queen sized blankets in one twin sized bed with a single person can also be convenient.
I run hot, half the time I just use the sheet.
I second this!