Daily Discussion Thread: Fri 17 Nov 2023
Daily Discussion Thread: Fri 17 Nov 2023
Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.
Daily Discussion Thread: Fri 17 Nov 2023
Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.
Breaking news: cats are pretty nice.
They can be, he says, as he nurses the scratch marks on his hands from playing with Gibson.
Second last walk / ball throwing adventure for hams.
3 days of 1.5hrs of pure ball throwing until he refuses in the morning, 1.5hrs of ball throwing / socialising with other doggos in the evening seems to be a solid strategy with him.
Also had a pug and sausage dog have a go at him and he freaked out a bit which is a bit ridiculous. The pug was so imbred it could hardly breathe.
then he complains about leaving the dog park only to walk home at a snails pace and collapse in the kitchen.
I’ve hit serious burnout. Can hardly function. Weekends spent resting. According to the self care podcasts I listen to, I should schedule a getaway somewhere nice to unwind for a week or two. Lol.
No leave - new job. Too much responsibility at home to be able to walk away. What am I supposed to do? Monthly therapy isn’t helping. Mindfulness can get stuffed. Thankful for my cat.
I’m the strong person who pushes though, and people say “you’ll be fine, you’ll work it out, you’re the smart person” etc. I just can’t.
If you find your hands are full - start dropping things.
seriously. Just consciously dropping things because your hands are too full can be incredibly relieving. And when the world doesn't end it releases even more.
Just make sure you're dropping the rubber balls and not the glass ones :P
take a holiday at home , pretend you are on holiday and that you will get back to thinking serious thoughts in 2 weeks time
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Can you find just a little bit of time out just for you? A walk? A sit under a tree? Sometimes I park a street back from after school care just to have 10 minutes between work and Mum duties. Sometimes I play music while I'm parked (either very heavy or something really light and classical) Sometimes I lay the seat back and just..... stop and exist in quiet. It's not really enough but it all helps.
As someone who is recovering from this I did something similar with podcasts. I also kept a spreadsheet as opposed to journaling to be brutally honest to myself about how things might be compounding and how past things were sliding to the forefront as a lot of unwanted things were taking over.
I couldn’t bring myself to do full cold water immersion but because the majority of it was during the Winter cold water as much as I could stand (on my face) helped first thing in the morning. (If it had kept going I was going to try hands in ice water which supposed to help with stress and letting the body know you can handle it).
As far as tasks, I just did the absolute must do at home and allowed myself space. If I didn’t pressure myself with all the shoulds and musts then I would naturally do a few more things if I was up for it.
Some things had to change. For me I was lucky there was a temporary situation I didn’t realise was really contributing to it.
I also forgave myself for what I was conditioned to see as failing. Anxiety Rx podcast (while not all of it appealed to me) really helped in the sense of highlighting how common it can be for people who have relied on certain tools or ways of managing things to eventually find out that those tools no longer work. That was the bit that was really hard for me. When you are in your head a lot and function a certain way, you rely on yourself, and to reach out and find nothing there is… (I mean more in relation to our own energy/strength/resilience.) Yeah, it’s hard. I wouldn’t wish it on people and it can manifest in ways that make it challenging to identify as burnout.
It’s like you’re in my head…. Wow.
I don’t ask for help in my life, always had to rely on myself. No family support. No friends asking how I’m going. Anxiety works overtime.
Body is now keeping the score… and physically preventing me from doing things now.
My shingles is scabbing, but due to the location it keeps cracking open and weeping, and it's making me fucking miserable. Also, keeping the heating on to keep me warm while I can't really wear a shirt is making my skin awfully dry, which is making my other skin problems play up.
I just want it to be over, but I was warned it may be a long time before that happens... ughhhhhhhhhhh
Sorry for the whinge.
There is a thing called Pinetarsol which might be allowed. It helps itch, but fucking stinks so pick your annoyance I guess
Strangely enough I quite like the tar smell. Am I weird?
I've been instructed to basically leave it alone, unfortunately, it's just me and the odd oatmeal bath.
On another note I will say that I like Pinetarsol, I use it every spring when my skin stuff gets out of control with allergies and whatnot.
Would calamine lotion help or even paw paw ointment?
I was instructed not to do too much to them, I am allowed oatmeal baths though. It seems that it's a suck-it-up sort of thing once it starts to scab.
Oh Botty
Well, you came and you posted our Daily
We did while you were away
Oh Botty
Well, you've worked and you stopped us from posting
And we thank you today
Oh Botty
Incoming pity party: made it to the interview stage of a role that I really felt aligned so well with my skillset only to be told today that again, I was the runner up and there was just someone better. I really had to fight the urge not to full-on cry on the phone when they told me because I was so devastated. I was basically manifesting in my head my future with this job all week (probably not the best idea) because I thought I was such a good candidate and thought the interview went well. It's very rare for these roles to appear that suit my experience so I really felt almost like it was made for me but now all that hope is....gone. The only feedback they could give was just it went to someone who had different organizational skills so now I feel like maybe I just suck at what I do if there's people out there who can do it better.
Net hugs
Could they give you any further or more specific feedback? It’s so difficult when that happens, but given what you’ve said I don’t think it would hurt to say that and try to get some more information?
Hopefully this just means a better opportunity elsewhere for you. 🤞🏻
welcome back 🔋
The uprising has resumed
I gave little dog a kangaroo jerky stick and now he won't leave me alone. I'm his best friend ever.
your first step to training little dog to hunt kangaroo for food in the post-apocalyptic world
Second step involves playing fetch with a bouncy ball
Oh I wouldn't need to train him. He loves chasing things.
Hello good people. How it going?
Lazy. Still horizontal. How you?
Upright and dejected.
Decidedly flat. Somebody entertain me?
Go for a walk and pick a fight with a senior citizen.
Everyone wins.
Going ok for the moment while I work at another site. Hoping the end of the day comes quickly.
Drinking too much coffee which is making me run to the bathroom far too often.
How's it going with you?
Busy as shit at work. Keeping fit and healthy, but also seething with rage at the general public for existing.
Trying to make the best of this Friday without doing too much work.
Good. I had to go and get some buns because we are having lobster rolls for dinner with lots and lots of beer. How are you going?
Pretty good. Busy and tired. Looking forward to beers tonight as well. No lobster for us though Mrs Moneybags ;)
Sigh I think I'm about to get dressed and go to impulse-buy a PS5 coz the Spider-Man 2 bundle is on sale and I want it. I guess it's not an impulse-buy considering I've thought about it for months but I didn't plan on buying a PS5 today or even this year when I woke up this morning.
Let's just call it a reward for having my apartment and car clean and my life more organised or something.
Lessgooooo
You did it! Well done and enjoy the ride!
Woo! Spider Man 2 is probably my favourite game that came out this year.
Hellooo! Shall I put the kettle on?
Beautiful moment in the CBD. At the tramstop at the top end of Collins st waiting for my tram. On the opposite tramstop a late middle aged gent in jeans and a band tshirt with fairy wings on his back - dancing to music only he could hear. And the son of a gun could dance pretty good. Felt like joining in, but was carrying too much shopping.
Well it turned into a lovely arvo. Cheers everybody. 🍺
🍻 TGIF
Still no wallet.
I’ve backtracked all my stops since I know I last had it, I’ve been to the cop shop to ask if it’s been handed in, I’m tearing my house apart…
WHERE IS IT
At this point it doesn’t matter unless the object has sentimental value. Cancel every card you have!
I tripped over at work yesterday and I thought I'd hurt my wrist but the pain today is just below my elbow, so I'm off to the doctor and to hopefully get an X-ray. It's my right arm and I'm right handed so that's annoying and my arm is getting sorer and sorer. I'm lucky I filled in an incident form for the fall. I really hope it's not serious but the pain is serious enough I'm worried it is.
In my expert opinion you poinged your sproingle and require two weeks paid vacation for oh&s
EDIT: I speak in jest but MAKE SURE you mention to the doctor this was a workplace accident and get the ball running on workcover.
You were injured at work, work pays for it.
I definitely will, I'm back at the doctor on Monday and will make sure he gets the ball rolling, I ended up booking a different doc at the same clinic because the one I saw on Friday truly didn't seem to grasp my job and how much I need to use my arms and lift and how serious an arm injury could be for me.
1964 The House Of The Rising Sun The best karaoke song of all time. You bet I belted that one out. The door's open so the neighbours got to hear. Lucky ducks.
P.S. Everytime I call for an intermission the man plays Metallica.
That song is one of the few I can comfortably sing and carry the tune.
I'm not sure if this was a number one hit but Shelter from the Storm - Bob Dylan, slaps like few others do
No Bob Dylan. I love Bob though and love that song. Any other guesses?
If its available, Do Wah Diddy is a super easy option. You only have to sing every second line (the crowd will enthusiastically fill in the rest), the vocal range required is really easy, and the song only goes for 2 minutes.
My last girlfriend before I met my wife was Filipina and well, the Karaoke stereotype in that community is real. I had to build a small repertoire of things I could be dragged out to sing.
What other songs did you deliver?
Finished binding the edges of my fave quilt, it was getting a bit frayed, and then washed it. More masks have been made. Made some scones for afternoon tea. Still heaps to do. 🥴
I love making quilts. Crochet, Tunisian crochet, knit, patchwork. I give them all away. Here's one I made my daughter because she loves geography and flags and stuff.
And the back
omg, that is so beautiful 💗
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Good bot
So much to do and it's already one of those days. I sewed a button onto the wrong side of the cuff. 🤓 Bought dark green ribbon for a belt instead of black
The very first time I hand sewed something as a little girl, I was so proud, I held it up to show my mum and I'd sown it to my dress.
Done that. Argh!
At least you didn’t set a sleeve inside out?
I'm currently in Korea, however their drivers make Melbourne drivers look completely sane.
Red light running is common (however they have right turn on red), and no one stays in their lanes when turning.
I feel like I’m in limbo at the moment.
I have no motivation or/and no idea what I want to do right now.
Only thing on my mind is making a coffee at the moment and sipping it.
Argh! I hate when I feel like this
Go for a walk and fight a senior citizen.
Absolutely no downside and it's good exercise.
I feel like that might give me living nightmares if I did something like that.
Still up..
What’s up everyone? ✨
Still up too...so tired but can't sleep.
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Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Lots of sweet things please, to salve my pain and despair at this being the first day of my working week whilst half the rest of the world are celebrating it being their last.
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Fuck it, I'm eating carbs today, can I please have all of the potato and sugary goodness?
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I'd like a healthy Asian brunch please chef if you could wangle it. And maybe a nice feline companion for the afternoon
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Cranberry everything please
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Something special, and unique, to celebrate today's Fridayness
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Welp... I bought a PS5 during my lunch break. Now to be fair, it's $679, the disc version AND I get Spider-Man 2 for free (for non-gamers, Spider-Man 2 came out less than a month ago and it's usually priced between $100 and $125 depending on where you get it from). I mean I put it all on Afterpay, but I only have to spend $169.75 every fortnight so yay!
Besides I also don't have to a) borrow my partner's PS5 when I put my hand up to review a PS5 game for my 2nd job b) when PS5 exclusive games are up for review I can actually do it without having to worry about a. and c) Play PS5 games when I want and don't have to wait every 2nd weekend for my partner to bring their PS5 or I go to their place and play it.
If you review games for a job, this is a work expense. Claim that $679 on tax.
I wish I could put it as a work expense. It's a volunteer position, so while I see it as a job, it's not a paying job (which is fine, I knew that going in, but I get video games in exchange so yeah). But man that'd be so bloody helpful!
Heyyyy twinsies!!
Look at us!
Edit: Okay looked at your comment about you picking one up, but like totally agree with you on the whole "not so much an impulse purchase, but also kind of is" because yeah I knew that once I got my job I would look into getting a PS5 (also looking into the ROG Ally, but hopefully we'll get news about the Steam Deck coming to Aus... one of these days), but I didn't think today I would get it. But well look at that! Very keen to pick mine up tomorrow (or today I guess), annoying thing is, is that it doesn't fit in our TV console. It's one of those Ikea 1x1 square shelving unit things on its side.
Does this make 2 DTers that have bought PS5s today?
I think so... It's got me thinking maybe I should make it 3
Not surprised more people got it. A friend of mine got one too. Considering that PS5's are now more readily available than they were previously.
Two interviews lined up for today. Just when I had decided I was going to try the world of freelancing, my current work asked if I was interested in doing a secondment outside of my organisation (which could turn into a permanent job). Maybe I am. AND then a job I applied for a while ago has come out of the woodwork. Is the world trying to tell me something?
I need to get to work, but I can’t find my wallet
It's in yesterday's pants pocket silly
packing done, need to dismantle table and pack up my pc but shall do that early morning. sent a couple msgs to the airtasker dude to confirm the pick up tomorrow but no response and that's stressing me out :<
worst case, will ask a friend to get a van from bunnings (?) and help me move. gosh moving is so stressful!
Edit: dude replied, we're on!
What's a guy with a van on airtasker cost if you don't mind?
This one was pretty cheap - $120 to move, but I don't have much stuff. A few boxes, a table and a chair and there's lifts on both sides. Fairly quick job.
Noodling around and saw that old 7 Red Lines video turn up in suggested on YouTube. I clearly blanked out the INHUMANE PSYCHOLOGICAL TORTURE that is watching that video because I stupidly clicked and only made it halfway through before ragequitting and now I have all this pent up fury and trauma.
OMG. How have I never seen that before (I just went and searched it). I am so angry now haha
I apologise for ruining your Friday evening
Just listened and danced to Dancing Queen Staying Alive and YMCA. Haven't even hit the 80s yet.
Hello brains trust! Any cunning ideas what I can do with this? I’ve 3m of 150 and it is not a garment fabric. Lite hessian? Good for shopping bags but I certainly don’t need that many.
Waistcoats.
Make shopping bags as gifts for friends and family. Tote bag. Potato bag. Onion bag. Place mats. A bag bag to store other bags in.
A bag for bags is totally a thing I have
Cat sized cushions, flog on etsy
Like this?
Oops wrong pic
You could make cute fabric planters for potted indoor plants, or furoshiki for Christmas/birthdays.
Table cloth of some kind? Table runner even? A decorative curtain for partioning rooms?
E: seconding placemats!
The very one directional pattern is putting me off many ideas. Placemats would work, but isn’t something we generally do.
curtains, cushions
Many cat-face eye patches
The countdown is gonna begin soon. The theme: #1 Top billboard song of the year, of every year starting with 1950's Good Night Irene by The Weavers and ending in 2000.
Anyone want to guess a song and a year? Put your money on folks.
Fernando 1978
Good guess. I can confirm the answer is no. Try the same band, 2 years before but different song.
The Commodores?
No Commodores. No Lionel. 1979 Another Brick In The Wall rounds out the 70s. Any guesses for the 80s.
I can’t name years because it all blurs together, but Thriller has to be one.
Some other ones maybe?
Staying Alive
Smells like Teen Spirit
Do they know it’s Christmas
Surprisingly no. Try another MJ
So I was looking at the Billboard #1 thing for uhm... unrelated reasons, and IIRC 1964 was I Want to Hold Your Hand by The Beatles, they also took #2 and a few other spots in the top 10 that year as well.
Yes. I guessed the band that had the most #1's. Of course it had to be the Beatles. No one else comes close.
Hey... just throwing it out there. Is it possible to miss being diagnosed with something like Crohns even after seeing specialists for many years and finally getting thrown in the too hard basket?
Did anyone else in this situation ever get an answer?
It's always easy to miss things! I have a heart defect that was missed for years because it was constantly fobbed off as anxiety. It wasn't until I started seeing a nurse for something unrelated did someone genuinely start to question what was going on.
Turns out my heart isn't overzealous because I'm anxious, it's because it's making up for that fact it's got some issues it's trying to constantly correct on its own.
Haha same sort of deal here hi five
It has all the hallmarks of being a disease that is easy for a doctor to fuck up:
That's... hopeful? Because it means there might still be something treatable on the table.
I got diagnosed with something with variable symptoms too, and most of the common ones overlap with yours, so yeah it could be other stuff
I would like to think 'not anymore' but anything is possible. And something like Crohn's can affect any part of your digestive tract and be mild to severe. So .. yeah maybe? Depends what's been tested/considered. I dont know how Crohn's specifically is diagnosed (but have history and relationships with people with similar hard to ID issues). My advice is gather your evidence and find a doctor who will listen and problem solve with you. It's hard but they do exist
I've been through so many tests and tried so many things but the last tests were 6 years ago (an important one unsuccessful) and the situation has deteriorated since.
My current specialists aren't listening because they have it pegged as 'psychosomatic' and are saying they don't see the need for more tests. So... guess I have to either push harder or go elsewhere.
Finished my Jane Eyre (2006) rewatch, now to not let myself watch everything Ruth Wilson has ever done (again), that woman is insane.
Honestly, the chemistry in the 2006 version is absolutely off tits, and for that reason alone it will always be my favourite adaptation of Jane Eyre.
Damn FRL, is it happening or is it not, what a shambles. I'm gonna guess their usual council contact has changed and they've fucked up the permit application with no Mr Niceguy to smooth things over.
The man refuses to play Katy Perry, A-ha, Midnight Oil, Tears For Fears. This is why I married him. He makes me laugh. Plus he buys me stuff.
Those people make up like half of my liked songs playlist :(
Oh dear. I'm sorry but we are more of a rock, punk rock family.
Everybody wants to rule the world.