Hey man. Coupling and parenting is tough, believe me I know. Among other things the constant tiredness is really something that makes relationships hard, communication becomes really hard and misunderstandings, assumptions, and unfortunately resentment can build pretty quickly and easily. We've been going to counselling for about 18 months this time around, had a break before that and before that about another year with a different therapist. Seems like we are in similar boats as I was requesting it for a fair while before my partner agreed. If I can give you some advice for the counselling....try to go in with a completely open mind, as in don't assume you know everything about the feelings involved, situational history etc. I had to come to terms with some stuff about myself pretty quickly that I didn't even realise I did/do... If you both go in ready to work on things, ready to understand the others viewpoint, ready to be honest...that's the best you can do. The people you were are likely still there, the things you love about your partner are likely still there, just that they're being hammered by responsibilities that no one knows the full extent of before having kids. I hope things improve for you, and you and your partner can have some real understanding and compassion for each other.

Hope it works out for you mate. It sucks, but counselling is a great first step. We did it after having our 2nd kid and it helped immensely.

Sorry to hear. Relationships are tough, especially with kids. Be gentle with yourself and try to respond to the situation and conversations rather than react/defend. Hope the counsellor helps, either way though, from someone who has had 2 marriages end before 40, leaving is sometimes the best option for everyone and life gets to be great again given time. Relationships are absolutely worth fighting for but its definitely not a failure to walk away

Sleep, lots and lots of sleep. If you can get a baby sitter over and just use the time to sleep.

don't worry about bringing the baby into your bed to get some sleep, everyone does it

and hugs

So stressful in a foreign country! Glad it turned out OK.

Yeh damn. Reminds me of that online therapy company that was busted a few years back for turning around and selling the details of your session after it ended. Advertisers need to pull there noses out of certain fields I reckon

@Mittens_meow @Seagoon_
Even worse is the fact the surveillance is crowd sourced.

Your phone might be as secure as it can be, but the Dr's phone/smart speaker/doorbell/etc may have picked up on what was said, detected your device/s via bluetooth and attributed it to you.

It's not just your devices watching and listening, it's everyone else's devices as well.

🤞🤞🤞

Good luck!

Good luck!

Love me some Lentils. Really getting into the beans and lentils lately! Price of meat certainly helps. I had a crack at a coconut chickpea curry. Pride forced me to finish the plate, but the Mrs was diplomatic in her "Yeahhhhhh look I appreciate the effort and I'm sure you'll get it right next time! but... i couldn't finish it"

Are you 24hr soaking and rinsing the lentils? That's the only tip I have for digestive comfort in the lentil category.

Red lentils and Mae Ploy Yellow curry paste are my jam.

Soaking and throwing away the soak water can help draw out some of the farty compounds. However an increase in gas from legumes is normal to a degree, it’s your microbiome digesting all the good stuff, and the gut will adjust if you eat legumes regularly. Also, if using canned, throw away the water and give a very good rinse. Same principle, the water contains lots of the fatty stuff.

There's a herb called angelica - yep the same stuff that gets candied into stringy green strips - but the leaves used fresh is GREAT for reducing the fart component of lentils/beans/peas/asparagus. If you have a garden, then might be worth growing some. Add a frond to the beans as they cook and hoist it out before serving cos quite stringy. Epazote does the same thing but might be easier to find on iherb or similar. I wouldn't cook legumes from scratch without epazote now.

I had to chose some options from the list, then message the doc to submit those choices to the TGA for approval. I'm still waiting on TGA approval.

^ This + 14 degrees in my room = no sleep

wow that's sounds like a clusterduck. I hope it remains a vaguely stable place for you despite everyone else's mess. Please vent all you need here.

She made a nest!

she is so cheeky 💖 but I still love her

Looks comfy. Glad my cat isn’t smart enough to do that 🤣

Intelligent and cruel are our furry masters. Shall they evermore devise devious plans for our inconvenience and chaos, amen 🙌

I felt like I had some weird dreams last night or the night before during one of my naps. I'm not quite sure as my memory of it wasn't as vivid as other times.

There must be something in the air. You're number 5, or maybe number 6 in the last 2 days!

“he’s in a meeting”

Nup, him and his dickhead recruiter mates are all having a circle jerk over a mirror in the boardroom. Sometimes they let the realestate agents from next door join in. Its the only way either of 'em ever get any love.

It could be reasonable that they are sometimes on calls, eg interviews reference checks, client calls etc, but I reckon not returning your call twice is probably a sign. The right thing will come along.

I thought it was Tuesday

I had a June kind of May moment earlier.

Or take a photo and then look at said photo.

Laughs in dirt road…. Car always dirty.

Yes they were all flashing red and green!

I went to a pretty spot by the river that night to see no aurora. Still, the skyline was nice enough that I didn't mind the trip:

showers could get problematic though

yes, but you still yearn for the sauce

Wild proposition, I guess in theory yes, but would be a no from me.

Nope. Have attempted it.

Of course tomato sauce enhances it, but the lack thereof shouldn't be a blocker to eating the whole back.

Crazy. I would have mustard if there was no sauce.

It's possible though tomato sauce does make them taste better.

Not crazy as such, just very very strange.

Bbq? Mustard? Cheese sauce rocks.

Scrambled eggs on toast with smoked salmon and a cup of coffee please.

Comfort food and a large chai latte plz chef.

Triple taco Tuesday treat please

Try 2 of my favourite films:

Paris, Texas. This one rocked me.

Dead man. The only film that Neil young scored.