egg🎵irl [Gender Non-specific] [Q&A Post]

"Because I want to" is a valid answer.

I get that. I didn’t shave my beard until the weekend before starting hormones. It was an armor I grew to protect myself (partly from seeing my face) and I let it go when it was time. I had the same reasons for not shaving sooner. So grow it until you’re ready to shed it sister. Your body is yours alone.

Hey, I'm just here after reading your edit, and I just want to say that you're totally valid.

I have a big bushy beard and I wear dresses and skirts and such. I know that I'm definitely in the minority, but fuck it, life's too short not to do what you want.

Ever since I was a kid I wanted a beard like my dad. Now that it's come fully in, I haven't shaved my face in a decade. It's at least as much a part of my identity as my femininity, and the two don't have to be mutually exclusive.

Anyway, I don't want to add to the pressure you're feeling. You're the only one who can say how you should live your life, and there's no wrong answers. But I've lived in the closet for a long time, and while I was there it might not have been comfortable, but it felt safe. But now that I'm out, I wouldn't trade it for anything.

When I shaved and people noticed, I just told them I used to shave that way or that I've always preferred it this way, and the only reason I had a beard before was because I was so busy for a while and stopped shaving to save time, so I was just getting back to my normal habits. You can probably find a similar excuse, that you have always preferred it this way and you're just getting back into it.

I should emphasize: men shave all the time, there is nothing suspicious about shaving your beard, hard stop.

Been there, done that. What helped me was two things.

1. Finding out nobody cared that much about my beard missing, except some close friends/partner but they also know me

2. Just saying "I wanted to try something new" which is definitely not a lie :3

Honestly shaving makes a huuge difference. Even now, a couple of months into hrt and permanent hair removal the difference a fresh shave makes for my self-recognition in the mirror is astounding!

Yeah, I kinda wanna try shaving off my beard as well. It'd be a bit problematic for me though, all my ID has me with a beard, and i look completely different without it (photo ID gets checked a lot for work). Whole reason I grew it was because it's so dense and grows so fast shaving smooth regularly was a pain in the ass.

Rubbing your own smooth chin after a long time without shaving is so weirdly pleasant even though I can't find the words to describe the feeling properly.

I was able to use covid as an excuse as there was a chance I was going to go back to work in the labs and the advice to workers was to be clean shaven if possible. I don't miss it one bit and after the first time I met somebody I knew they never commented on it again.

Maybe keep trimming it shorter and shorter until it's gone?

I could have not transitioned, but the alternative wasn't staying cis. The alternative was not growing old.

I find that interesting because I really expected to wind up more butch than I did. I transitioned for the body and to be seen as a woman socially. I didn’t even really start wearing makeup until I learned eyeshadow while recovering from bottom surgery.

Personally I like my name, it's a very nice and ambiguous name. I definitely need to work on that second one though.

I never considered mirror towels thx!!!

Same! I spent way too many years depriving myself of that joy because of toxic masculinity.