I am a woman
I am a woman
I just wanted to share that you don't have to be "traditionally beautiful" to be considered a woman. I am a woman. I am aware I don't conform to society's vision of a woman. But I am a woman.
You took a photo without filters, bad lighting and a bad angle, and you still look good.
44Just goes to show you, I don't know how to take pictures!
24Take the photo from an angle pointing down rather than up to start. We all look better from that angle.
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Look, I'm just a weird straight guy who stumbled upon this sub and knows nothing about trans stuff or the correct terminology.
You look fine girl, but you really need to google camera angles and how to pose for pictures. No one looks at their best if they take a picture from below with their chin tucked in.
Take a picture from a slightly higher angle, lean forward from the waist and stretch out the neck towards the camera. Really exagerate it, the camera won't be able to tell. You'll look 10x better.
Oh, and all of you... don't spend too much time on the internet comparing yourself to photoshopped pictures of models caked in make-up. Most cisgender women don't look like that either. Women come in different shapes and sizes. Given how many of my cisgender friends have been harassed on their way to take a shit, just because they weren't wearing make-up, you guys should worry less about conforming to distorted societal expectations of what a woman should look like and realise it's not a you problem that you sometimes don't meet those expectations.
27Trust me, I never claimed to be a photographer, just an idiot with a phone lol. But ya, I'll take those tips in mind. I really do want to take better pics of myself. Thank you for trying to help!
20I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful, but could you edit your comment to change "genetic XX" to "cisgender" or "cis". I understand what you're trying to say, but language equating gender with genetics is not allowed on here. We try and keep this space safe for all transfeminine people, and we are often invalidated by people claiming we aren't truly women because of our chromosomal configuration.
So if you could, please edit the wording. For clarity sake, cisgender means that you are the gender you were assigned at birth. So if when you were born the doctor said that you're a girl and to this day you still identify as a girl/woman, that would make you cisgender.
18I edited it. Not used to talking about this stuff, so I forgot the newer term.
To be clear, I used XX as an adjective. As in some women are fat, some are thin, some are French, some are XX, some are XY, some are American. I didn't mean to suggest otherwise or cause discomfort
But now I think of it and if I'm not mistaken, there's also non-trans XX men and non-trans XY women. So besides not using less offensive terminology, I wasn't technically correct either. Some XY women aren't trans. AFAIK it's possible to be cisgender and non-genderconforming. It's all very confusing, nature's like that and always has been, despite most of us being taught to think in binaries from a young age.
I'm rambling. I'm going to go away now. TLDR: ignore the dickheads.
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Yes you are. You go girl
11hi woman, I'm dad :)
9Confident women are always beautiful!
8Fake it til you make it, I say! I have no confidence, and I honestly think it shows that I look like a guy wearing makeup. I was pleased with my literal first time putting makeup on tho.
8Every time I wear a dress the "dude in a dress" thought is always in the back of my mind, so I know what you mean. But I can honestly say I just see a woman in this picture. :3
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Frida Kahlo would like to take part on the debate of what "traditionally beautiful" means. That woman broke every single stereotype on the book for her time and still she was the idol and envy of many.
Be happy and have a nice weekend.
7You actually look a lot like a younger version of my aunt! She also rocks the dark hair red lipstick combo.
6I noticed I do have older auntie vibes on my good days. Not a bad thing, just wish I had a chance to be a hot valley girl, but, not in the cards I guess.
4Sorry, I didn't mean you give out an older vibe at all, it's definitely a "cool aunt" vibe, the one the niblings come to for advice about sex and drugs and stuff they wouldn't want to talk to their parents about..
From the UK, and the valleys here probably don't have the same style that you mean lol but if it's a look you wanna try I say explore and have fun! Either way, you already strike this random stranger as stylish and confident 😊
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Traditional beauty is never what I'm referring to when I say someone is beautiful. Traditional beauty is the male standard of beauty for women. We can sit here and debate camera angles and all that all day, but it doesn't matter. I honestly think the angle of the pictures is candid and sweet. You made a post declaring "I am a woman" and the picture shows you as you are. There's pride in that.
As women we can define beauty for ourselves. I think you're a beautiful woman. I think that transitioning and choosing to be ourselves in a world of adversity is beautiful. And I hope that you are able to see the beauty of your own womanhood too :)
5Damn right you are!
Have an awesome weekend, you beautiful lady!
4Hell yes!
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4You got an AnCom thing going with the colors and the angle of the strap on what I have to assume is a messenger bag.
3Is beauty a requirement for womanhood?
3You've got my respect, that's for sure. Thanks for sharing, I am starting to see that I need to just exist as I am 🤷♀️ I'm a woman, too!
2and you slay! what's the lip shade ??
1swag go get ittt
1Get after it girl!
1Nice to meet you!
1I'm not a magician, but life expectancy seems to be measured in days, lol
1I don't understand? Are you threatening me?
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1Aight
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