A few minutes away from asking my girlfriends parents for their blessing. I'm so fucking nervous
A few minutes away from asking my girlfriends parents for their blessing. I'm so fucking nervous
Edit: they said yes!!!!! ☺️ still have the jitters though
One of my uncles told a story at my grandpa's wake. He was asking the same, for a blessing to propose. Granddad responded by sarcastically asking "what if I say no?"
Way he tells it, he joked back that he'd probably ask her anyway, and with that he had the go-ahead. They're retired, and still married.
Show a little resilience and humor, is my advice. Some families just want to know you can hang with the jokes - though I can't vouch for the quality of the humor, the willingness to laugh things off is rarely misplaced.
13It was my mistake, but when I first read this, I understood it as your uncle told the story of how he asked for his blessing at the wake...and rather than wonder how he asked for the blessing of a dead man, I wonder what odd family would ask for proposal blessings at a funeral.
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How did it go?
7They said yes!!!
11Congratulations!
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I've never had anxiety where it feels like your throat is closing up. Also, it's not going to plan, still waiting. Slow, excruciating waiting
6My brother in law didn't necessarily "ask" my Dad. He told him he was planning to ask, and if my Dad had any thoughts on that.
I think a lot of people who are saying it's creepy need to touch grass. It's not at all like bargaining for the transfer of human property... It's like choosing who'll be the first person you tell when you get pregnant. It's a deliberate choice to honour someone by giving them some information first.
3Best of luck o7
2Mission successful
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Good luck!
1I can't get my girlfriend away from her parents, have had drinks though so I'm much more calm, it may need to be postponed till early in the morning when she's asleep
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It was a quaint thing to do 25 years ago, today it's kind of creepy.
1Wtf do you think I'm asking for them to give me her as a prize or something? Im telling her parents how much I love her and asking them if they'll accept me into the family, then I'll ask the same of her.
12I mean, yes, that is where the tradition comes from. I would be so insulted if my partner asked my parents if they wanted me to marry someone, before they even spoke to me about it. I'm sure you know your potential partner better than we do, but it's still worth considering that they might not be as into it as you assume.
If the parents say no, do you just silently drop the whole thing? Of course not. It's kind of performative, and the message it sends is quite out of date.
6Don't listen to the haters in this thread. I got married 7 years ago. I asked, but it was more of a 'hey, I'm going to ask her; are you guys ok with it?'.
Like when I proposed, I already knew the answer to the question.
2Don't worry about ... Checks notes "jerk face". Just do your thing.
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Better not do it or at very least Don't get married with equal separation of your things.
-2Who hurt you
7Probably 3 ex wives who share a divorce attorney
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