What's the weirdest thing another trans person said to you?

Yesterday I was telling a transfem acquaintance about a bike camping trip I'm taking soon with a cis m buddy and she was mortified. She was convinced that he would assault me the first chance he got. "How will you pee without risking him attacking you?!" I explained that my buddy knows I'm a transguy and he's good people, but she was convinced that this is a horrible idea and that I'm risking my life by taking this trip. It was strange.

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That's honestly sad she would think that, even after he was vouched for.

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I was at a summer camp a while ago and there was this pre-transition trans man who was also there. Eventually as the camp progressed and everyone got to know each other better, I told some of the queer people there I was trans so they could relate to me better.

This person, I kid you not, said "Ha, I knew no one from cowboycrustation's state would have a name like cowboycrustation's name!"

I was like...wtf. My name irl isn't one of those names like fern or star that aren't common among cis people. My name is a somewhat common men's name. I literally have a cousin with the same name.

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I might be able to understand/relate to that better if you share what the name is, but of course, no pressure, as it's personal information.

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had a trans girl get offended when i said to her that i preferred spending time around her and other trans people, apparently she didnt consider herself trans or like to be refered to as a trans woman. idk, it felt kind of alienating like she was passing now and so didnt want to be associated with other trans people anymore like i was beneath her or something.

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What internalized transphobia does to a gal

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- (sorry if I shouldn’t be replying on this post just let me know if so - straight cis man)
  
  My trans sister has expressed similar feelings. I’ve tried encouraging her to find some people she could befriend in the community while she’s on her transition journey. She says she doesn’t want to be part of the community, and once she’s fully passing in her eyes (I personally think she very much is already, and keep telling her that) that she wants to just live as a woman with nobody else ever knowing she’s trans. It’s obviously her choice, but I can’t help but constantly wish I could do more for her than just be supportive and love her for who she is.
  
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"Drag is trans blackface"

Girl, drag was how many trans people came to understand themselves. No doubt people like RuPaul have a hell of a history of transphobia, but the art form itself is still incredibly queer.

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That is by far the most braindead take I've heard. It's on par with the TERF argument that "trans women are just doing woman blackface"

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- Yuuuup. Trust me, I went round and round with them saying all the same sort of things, but it went nowhere. Idk, she had a lot of other issues going on so I let it go, but its still a surreal conversation.
  
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genuinely curious but what did RuPaul do? Ive never paid attention to drag cuz the culture surrounding it has always seemed mostly like really obnoxious straight ally types lol.

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- it has always seemed mostly like really obnoxious straight ally types lol.
  
  10,000% correct. Drag has existed as a musical/comedy art form framed around gender and sexuality. The only thing Ru did was bring that to TV, by sanding down the queer roots. When a cis person telling me how much they love RuPaul, all I see is 🚩's and I make or point of explaining the difference of trans and drag.
  
  But anyways, it's not just one thing but years of Ru being openly transphobic. Such as calling HRT a performance enhancing drug, and forcing trans queens on the show to entirely stop while competing. Tons of times using the t slur, and then laughing at people asking him to stop. Having the fan mail segment called "reading shemale". And all this is separate from Ru having a bookstore selling mein khamph, Turner diaries, irreversible damage and books by DeSantis. Or..... his oil fracking side hustle. (yes seriously).
  
  Ru has always been in it for the money.
  
  And that's just just the stuff off the top of my head. This article has more info. but this quote really highlights the damage he has done selling out queer culture.
  
  In 2012, after Lance Bass issued an apology for using the word “tranny” and cited its use on RuPaul’s Drag Race as part of why he thought it might be okay, RuPaul was openly annoyed that Bass should have to walk that back. “I love the word ‘tranny,’” he insisted. “And no one has ever said the word ‘tranny’ in a derogatory sense.”
  
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I've had people from a trans community on Reddit call me transphobic for posting a meme given to me by my trans sister which she got from her trans support group friends.

Guess that whole group of trans people are also transphobic 🤷🏻‍♂️

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I wanna see it

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