"If everyone's an asshole, you're the asshole," but what are they when they apologize?

Someone trying to appease an asshole probably

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Assholes never apologize. they live in their own reality and nothing will shake them out of it. A normal person learns from their mistakes. When wrong they apologize. So we are all assholes but not permanent assholes like far too many out there today

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I find they sometimes apologize, but either for the wrong reasons or just completly insincerely

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Liable

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canadian?

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That's what I was going to say!

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The thing in quotes isn't true in the first place. It implies that bullying unpopular people isn't a thing.

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Ok, but what if I think about 40-60% are assholes, 30% are dumbasses, 90% of people come off ass dumbasses because they don't think things through, 80% of people are disgusting, 30% of people have a good heart, 10% of people are too trusting, 60% of people have depression, 85% of women have prior experiences being on the recieving end of unwanted sexual advances by force, 80% of guys follow sports because they have no other way to communicate with other guys, 7% of people are color blind, and 100% of people think I'm the greatest human being who's ever existed?

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I mean, does that necessarily have to be taken as true in the first place? Both parts maybe, but I mean the first thing. Are numbers not, in the end, demographic? Talk to most people who work in retail, became a child actor, reported a billionaire shooter, etc. and tell me what you think.

If someone apologizes, and they do it properly, and everyone else doesn't do their part properly, I mean I'd have a hard time sympathizing with the crowd. Not that I don't already. I've been in this exact situation very often. I think maybe once my apology was accepted, and this one time is often scorned by people who think they know better than the apology receiver and invalidate his acceptance of it, implying I unforgivably offended the world. Should the unyielding people not always be checked first to see if they're the asshole?

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There can be more than one asshole. I will also note that apologising makes them LESS of an asshole, so...

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If you're not an asshole, then you're not human.

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The irony of this statement is that you may take any (human) disagreement with it as proof of it.

Yet lots of (human) people have the natural demeanour and default mindset to not be one. They're like unicorns, sure, but they exist.

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- Obviously a short statement like this one will not be a complete representation of the situation.
  
  Often, especially people that compulsively try to not be assholes are very much assholes, since they expect to be ultra nice and be treated ultra nice in return, even if their niceness is situationally not appreciated and the niceness they expect in return for their own niceness is unreasonable.
  
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Then they are an asshole with you? I mean, sometimes everyone is an asshole. Sometimes assholes apologize & remain assholes. So many answers to this question.

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I'm still the asshole for cutting ties, but then I'm the asshole because I'm being bullied by my entire family. And if I'm bullied by everyone then I deserve it.

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- FWIW I don't think any of these statements are necessarily true.
  
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A 'sorry ass SOB.'

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Phrase works everywhere except America

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Label creation is nothing better than generalization to avoid critical thinking. While helpful at an elementary level for a basic understanding of the world, is generally harmful to humans being better humans.

Historically used as a weapon of manipulation by fascists (immigrants are x, Jews are y, etc), it's also come into common use among "liberals" in the US who started dropping to the level of conservatives post-great recession or around the time the whole population had smartphones and their news from Facebook. It's why the US has arrived at such toxic levels of "discourse" in society, false dichotomies, and echo chambers.

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A pussy.

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