i thought she'd be happy for me

Homie I'm sorry that happened.

You might want to do some research on:

verbal abuse
narcissistic parent
low self esteem

This is what I wish someone else told me.

Good luck on your journey

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Thanks for the sympathy- my mom hasn't been very emotionally stable for my whole life. She's not perfect and sometimes I think she's wrong, but I know she loves and cares about me

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- I read a book called Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. My mom is similar, and it gave me a lot of insight into why she behaves the way she does, and how I may have developed unhealthy coping mechanisms as a result. Highly recommend.
  
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- Oh, just because someone is abusive or unsupportive doesn't mean that they don't love you. It just means that their interactions aren't healthy for you and you need to establish boundaries.
  
  Regardless, I hope that you're doing well. I don't know what your project is, but I can certainly tell you that it's much more impressive than anything I've made
  
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I'm genuinely just really sorry. 104 stars is awesome for a hobby project, and if she isn't, I'm proud of that and happy for you :)
But yeah, I'm sorry that she hasn't appreciated that and reacted in a nice way… and besides that, obviously coding open source is something good for job prospects.

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Yeah I guess. I've only been able to get internships- good internships. But I've never been able to get a real job

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- Well you managed to get the username aidan@lemmy.world before me, so that’s something
  
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- I wish you best of luck doing that (when you want to(?)); I hope you'll be able to get a good job in a field that you enjoy to work within.
  
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Bill Gates was Bill Gates because he had rich parents who got him access to millions of dollars of computer hardware at a time when that was much harder than today. If you're not Bill Gates it's on your parents, imo.

That said, 100 stars is great. Keep it up! That's 100 people who looked at the stuff you're doing, evaluated it using their expertise, and decided it was good enough work to call attention to.

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That part of it, sure, but the guy was good at business and made some smart bets (that the microcomputer industry would explode, for one). Microsoft didn't get as big as it has based only on their technical ability. They got there because they made the right decisions and were cutthroat against their competitors.

Bill was at the right time and right place, but he was also the right guy. You gotta have them all.

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- Cutthroat is an understatement. He did a lot of illegal stuff in the USA and internationally because governments had no idea how he was exploiting them/breaking commercial law. He also bribed hundreds of governments and stifled innovation. The world would be a better place without him.
  
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- It's easy to make some smart bets when you can make many bets and fail over and over and not become destitute.
  
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- Bill Gates did have some business expertise, yes.
  
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Wow. This pretty much constitutes verbal abuse. I'm sorry you had to hear all that. And hey, I'm happy for you!

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My mother told me to make Facebook. I tried explaining Facebook already existed, but it was no use.

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You can run a Friendica instance and act like you invented it. My family was impressed when I "made my own Netflix" with a Plex server lol.

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You can still make Facebook, you just need to register it on a domain they haven't claimed. Then get sued and live in a box for the rest of your life while paying Zuck your bucks for trademark infringement.

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Yeah, I have a little bit of that problem too. Then she says "I didn't mean it exactly, just something like it"

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- I want you to just make a house! Well, obviously not a house like this brick house, but something like it..
  
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I've got a 60 star project on github. Some people have left some very nice feedback about how useful my code has been for them as a Linux alternative to a Windows program. I'm proud of my little bit of code, even if it hasn't earned me a single cent (nor do I have expectations for it to)!

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Nice that is really cool to have feedback from people using your creation

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Drop the github fam I'd love to take a look

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- I'd love to but I would dox myself here which I don't want to do. I'll say this much: it is a thing where if you have looked for Linux alternatives of the Windows version, there is a small chance you've found my code already :)
  
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104 stars is damn impressive.. can’t compare github stars to low effort social media likes!

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Yeah, although the thing that makes me the most happy is actually seeing stuff I made being used.

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- What sort of stuff do you make?
  
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Someone used to periodically fork my repo of a college assignment and change all the text to Chinese. I assume they were stealing it but I don't know. I think their name was spikerman but I'm probably misremembering.

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- Thanks for your service to the Chinese 🫡
  
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I'm proud of you!! That's huge. You should give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back. Verifiable progress and it's only up from here, keep it up :)

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Honestly I don't know- I've been very lazy and lacking motivation for while so it's kinda going down

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- I would lack motivation too if I grew up with a mom like that. You need to eject her talk from your head. Every day you wake up a new person and whatever had happened earlier is nothing but memories. Begin again. You're free, and life is full of opportunities.
  
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That's 102 stars more than my best... Nicely done :)

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At least his heinously critical mom still looks young, I guess 🤷

Although most would probably count it as a negative that she looks to be the same age as her son.

Or maybe it's an unintended aspect of the art style and I should stop overanalysing everything like a goddamn moron, like MY mom keeps telling me 😉

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I think there is definitely so time traveling going on here.

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Yo why is this so relatable

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so we have shared suffering

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What's the GitHub link boss?

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I wasn't actually referencing 1 project but the sum of 4(but most of the stars are in one)- so here's my profile

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- Very cool
  
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- I'm going to try the immersive language one. That sounds so cool!
  
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