Not sure who I'm writing this for or who but will share it anyway
can I maybe humanise piper Perri a bit?
Well post this scene she had a kid. Split with the dad. Got into a new relationship. 25 years old.
She left said 21 month old son in the care of her boyfriend. Returns to find the child hospitalised with multiple suspicious injuries and severe internal head trauma.
She started a gofundme to pay for his treatment. Trolled of course because porn star. The largest contributor was funnily enough an adult site.
Son didn't make it. She requested his organs be donated so he could live on in other people. His death meant three other kids had longer / better lives.
The boyfriend went to court. Gave conflicting reasons as to how the injuries occurred during interviews then settled on the old fell down the stairs response. The cause of death noted as shaken baby syndrome.
That's what I see when I see this meme. A mother whose kid was killed but had the grace and heart to use her son's passing to help other kids live. One day these kids will see the meme and not realise they're alive because of the choices of that woman.
She had sex on camera with some black guys in a taboo scene which plays on the white male insecurity fetish, which we now use as a shortcut to mean being taken advantage of. Weird, huh.
Anyway. Julienne, I hope you're doing well.
320In case this is ever useful for someone to read:
It is OK to just put a child down and leave the room if you can't handle them for whatever reason. It doesn't make you a bad person. Just leave the room, get some space and call someone for help if you need it.
Update: was not expecting a meme/prank about porn to generate such a thoughtful and valuable discussion about child safety and cultural attitudes to parenting. Thank you Piper Perri.
124As a parent of two young autistic children, breaks are very important. You will parent better and they will react better
49Wow. No kids here. But this is absolutely not the narrative I’ve picked up through mostly American media. In the back of my mind is this pull that essentially says that if a baby is awake—especially if they’re being frustrating—it should not be alone.
The wow is because 1. I wasn’t even aware I felt that way, and 2. because it’s in conflict with what sounds like helpful advice.
27Your advice isn't bad - breaks are good and a few moments of crying aren't so bad, but shaken baby syndrome has some serious problems as an explanation of the injuries it gets used for:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC381308/
Their conclusions are remarkably similar to those of Donohoe, who found that “the evidence for shaken baby syndrome appears analogous to an inverted pyramid, with a very small database (most of it poor quality original research, retrospective in nature, and without appropriate control groups) spreading to a broad body of somewhat divergent opinions.”
Reviewing the studies achieving the highest quality of evidence rating scores, Donohoe found that “there was inadequate scientific evidence to come to a firm conclusion on most aspects of causation, diagnosis, treatment, or any other matters,” and identified “serious data gaps, flaws of logic, inconsistency of case definition.”
The problem here is that the story about a shaken baby has taken hold, and so anyone who has actually beaten up a baby can grab onto it and lie and say they shook the baby, they just lost control, they didn't intend any harm, and it makes them look less evil.
And obviously you can't trust the account of someone who may be lying to cover up what amounts to infanticide. Reading the account above it's clear the boyfriend was changing his story to cover up something horrific that he did. "Fell down the stairs" is another common one but it sounds like a cover up. Shaken baby syndrome still has popular credibility so it gets used.
The other side of this problem is that there may be reasons why children have internal haemorrhages that aren't related to abuse, but which then get blamed on shaken baby syndrome. Innocent grieving parents have been sent to prison and told that their actions killed their baby. They may even have believed it, until their conviction was overturned because a real expert was brought in who was able to demonstrate that it was all bullshit. Those are the cases that were overturned in time - child abusers don't do well in prison.
Another negative effect of the narrative around this questionable diagnosis is that parents are taught that they are a danger to their children because of some heretofore unknowable impulse to shake their child to death. I can tell you I had plenty of moments when I felt like I was losing my mind from the crying and sleep deprivation, but doing anything that might hurt my child never crossed my mind, not once.
When I was a new parent there was no end of bizarre, sensationalist bullshit bombarding us from all sides telling us all the ways we were destined to hurt or kill our kids, most of which was just designed to sell us crap we didn't need. In this case a lot of this is sensationalism that sells tabloids and the services of forensic "experts". New parents don't need more sources of anxiety, so I think we should reserve these kinds of warnings for problems that we actually know are problems.
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she sounds like a really cool person and it's awful that happened to her son
this joke isn't making fun of her or saying she's a bad person. people can like porn like this without being bad or racist people.
but i'm glad you told us a bit about who she is. porn stars and sex workers do something really kind, in a way, because they are providing something people really want, but may not otherwise get, which is also a fundamental human need. i hope one day society changes and we glorify sex workers for being valuable members of society and i hope one day being a porn star is completely a choice and doesn't have to be disentangled from "late stage capitalism" or extremely unequal wealth distribution or whatever you want to call our current era. People who star in pornography, if not forced to star in it due to poverty, choose to become slightly public figures, in a strange way, and should expect possible jokes like this. this joke is not making fun of her, it's making fun of the play on words. it sucks she was trolled for a gofundme, however, and perhaps this joke should be seen in that context as therefore being unfair.
did the boyfriend get convicted? is she doing alright now? i hope she's doing well too. there are between 3-6 parents out there who owe everything to her right now and always will.
50Well, for like thirty seconds I was amused by this post and now I feel like complete shit.
Thank you internet strange.
35Thank you for sharing this. She and her son deserve it
21To pull on one thread of your very sad story: the shocking displays of racism in seemingly all black/white interracial porn is beyond disgusting. I think it plays a big part in perpetuating racism in younger white men, because in their very formative years, seeing the type stuff I’ve scrolled past? It can seemingly only work to turn men on if it plays on racism. And some of them lean so hard into this that it’s just outright racism. But when people are scrolling porn, they’re not in their right minds. So if they have those racist inclinations, or they just grew up almost never interacting with any Black people, it only serves to pile racist stereotypes and conditioning into their brains. It’s disgusting.
18I dunno. I've watched vids in this genre when the lady performer is someone I'm already interested in seeing. They don't make me feel insecure or engender racism in me. But then again, I was already an adult when broadband internet became a thing. And true broadband, fast enough to allow instant streaming, was still years after that. I can see your point for kids growing up with it though.
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Weirdly I only really know about her in the context of her losing a child and memes of black things around a white thing. I'm not American so the skin colour of the male performers doesn't have the same impact on me, and I'm not compelled to watch it. I like petite women, but yeah. Really harsh. Just kind of want to give her a hug, even though I'm as much of a disgusting pervert as the next guy.
17Heartbreaking.
8Since I get the feeling I don’t want to look it up.
What were the alleged ”liberal media lies” that “ruined” this girls life?
7The image in this post is trolling. If someone searches the suggested phrase, they'll find a porn video. All of the text before that is meant to bait Trump supporters into wanting to know more. There were no liberal media lies about her. The comment you're replying to gives some (presumably true) background on her but doesn't really have anything to do with the completely fabricated original post.
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Thanks. I had no idea who she was.
2Thanks. I’m finding memes as they become more topical and just showing a picture with angry words with absolutely no lead in the titles is more confusing than informative(some things just don’t work tucked into memes). You the REAL MVP.
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An in-depth probe was done by the BBC. Both parties seemed satisfied in the end.
95You have unintentionally demonstrated your purity with this comment.
You may pass into heaven.
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This is funny, but 100% of Trumps supporters know who she is. You don't campaign that hard to ban porn if you're not miserably addicted to it.
82Wait there are people who aren't miserably addicted to it?
I don't know if you noticed or not, but Sears ain't making catalogs anymore.
12I didn't catch it til I read your comment. Is there that much crossover between trumpets and the conservatives trying to block pornography?
7Yeah, it's a major part of the Republican "Project 2025" plan for if Trump wins in November.
Not only are they promising to uphold the First Amendment and all forms of free speech, they are also promising to ban porn because it is "too offensive". Very coherent stuff...
And yeah, most conservative men have a porn problem and their desire for a ban is a desperate call for a nanny state that will protect them from their own sex drives.
15Ted Cruz is why we've all seen all of Corey Chase's videos. Haha, right guys?
Guys?
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I lay in bed some nights and ask myself, "Why God? Why didn't they take me instead of her?!" Sometimes, life just isn't fair.
57I've watched that video over and over and over again. The librul media has gone too far! (Well tbh, once I finished the first time, I didn't have the energy to watch it again.)
55I need to know: Is that parenthesized bit a big exaggeration, do you mean you didn't want to anymore, was it very long, or are there actually people for which porn takes on some infohazard-like quality where they can't stop themselves so much that it's actually exhausting? It's not really your shame but all these cryptic allusions everyone here is making make me feel really out of touch.
2Though the only erotic things I've ever seen take at least some mental work to classify as porn, this does make me wonder how the taboo on this topic causes people and their experiences to be locked in 1-sized bubbles, because they only ever share these kinds of allusions and assume it's the same for everyone else.
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This always makes me laugh. Anyone seen the aftermath of searching this IRL?
I fucking hope so.
38I'd need a second towel for that 🤌🏽
27Bwahahahahaha.
Goddamn I'm a 12 year old boy at heart.
13It is Towel Day today, after all.
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I fucking hate what they did to that poor girl.
31Yeah they shafted her pretty hard.
37Those accusations were a real gut-shot.
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I already know what this is going to be, but I'm going to search it anyway.
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Yup.
25I mean, she's literally the girl from a meme with 5 black guys
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Username checks out
25Next up: Drump writes Ms. Perry $130,000 check in “legal fees”
20Lol BBC liberal media. They have a massive Tory bias.
18Tories have great funding from corporate, thus BBC have better funding from the Tories, capitalism baby
5It's not just that. As government they have influence over who runs the BBC. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/BBC_Board
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Forward Piper Perri BBC to sixteen people to stop the steal!
17The video has been around for years and I've never seen it. Not really a fan of Piper Perri so I never bothered.
14Don't believe the lies bro.
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Classic…
8It just took me 5 minutes to work out what was going on. God I'm slow these days.
7Hahaha! I didn't recognize the name (though I thought it seemed a bit familiar). I fell for the joke. But that's probably only because I don't like blonds. If the name had been a brunette, I'd have been more likely to get it without doing a search.
6The FUCKING libs! At it a gain! Tarnishing the name of this beautiful young god fearing Republican! /s
4What if we cancelled cancel culture itself? We just need to paint cancel culture as problematic, sexist, racist, transphobic, homopho...
...oh, it often punishes minorities way more than the non-minorities, and some on the far-right have figured out how to exploit it to cause leftist infighting.
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0can you stop i'm not clicking on that
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Why would BBC care about American issues this much?
It’s too much of a stretch for the joke
-2The BBC reports on a lot of non-UK matters. And American righties tend to moan about it.
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I didn’t downvote because I agree with the story of who this person is and she’s a good one after someone had to explain it. But i downvoted that this political meme was a disaster at getting the correct information and emotion across. The title was lacking (yet your anger wording on the meme itself was not) and this was needlessly confusing for what a meme should represent.
-3I downvote you for completely and utterly missing the point.
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