What ability from people did you wish you had?

Your wish has been granted! You will now keenly remember old photographs 👍

As someone with ADHD. My brain remembering things would be a game changer.

Afaik no one has ever been proven to have photographic memory (e.g. being able to remember random dots on an image is used as a test, if memory serves right). So for the most part it is just a nice little character trait for movies and the likes.

I noticed that a lot of people I know are significantly better at remembering some things, in this case numbers, but worse at other parts (e.g. conversations). So oftentimes its also a matter of what exactly you are good and bad at remembering.

Depending on the context, it also comes with experience. Think of games like chess, poker, etc. Experienced players are often able to replay an entire match, which in large part comes from their experience and the context of the many games they’ve played. If you met the same people in their first few matches, that ability would probably have been a lot less developed (if that makes sense).

No scientific backing on these statements, it's just based on my personal experience and impressions.

I truly don't know how some people work if not in a manic state for 10 hrs straight because you have a bunch of stuff due at the same time

I guess I could spread out the work, but sometimes I'm passively thinking of the best way to tackle it and other times it's a task I don't like doing.

It's literally how I make all my money.

Went here to say that. Imagine not having an absolute obsession, want to do the thing, but not thinking about it all day. You just... do it. Couldn't be me. I wish I could have little side projects instead of just... comtemplating the idea of doing it for fucking years.

Do you mean Pitt and Jennifer Aniston? The Brangelina split was in 2019.

Its a super power in battle/reaction situations. In all aplicable areas of modern age, its a nightmare.

Not a superpower. Thinking all moments of every single day, although exhausting, does make one significantly more experienced with thinking and how their mind works than those who can choose not to think most of the time though if untempered these thoughts are typically nonsense. It's an advantage in many situations to be able to think at light speed while everyone else is panicking, but the burnout that comes from not being able to ever turn it off is pretty nasty. It's different with different advantages and disadvantages. I personally wouldn't change my mind to be different, but I wouldn't recommend a mind like mine to someone who wouldn't be able to handle it since I'm barely able to handle it myself with decades of experience.

What up insomnia gang? Coming to you love from the bed at 6 AM. Too late to fall back asleep, too early to get up.

Have you considered trying to dress cute or paint your nails?

That’s absolutely normal, especially as people tend to compare their general performance with their peak performance („I managed to play that without errors once, why am I not managing it every time?“).

You can do a number of things to improve your mental consistency within the limits of your current abilities by forming healthy habits around it, if it is very important. E.g. a balanced lifestyle of sorts and a good warmup routine when playing your instrument, but even then you will have off days.

If you want to nail that section consistently, you will have to increase your skill ceiling quite a bit, way beyond „nailing it once“. Usually you don’t notice that progress as much with instruments, because ideally the things you are working on are always challenging you at your current level, but try going back to something you played one or two years ago. You may have to refresh the piece until it sounds good again, but then you will probably be way more consistent about your performance than the first time around.

Rocket league is a completely different skill set, but the concepts apply in the same way. Structuring your life around being in ideal mental and physical condition to perform in a video game is probably a lot less useful for your life, but I’d bet every professional player does it.

Out of curiosity, how does it feel for you to look at someone’s nose while they are looking in your eyes?

You know someone who can light a fire with their mind?

As someone who transitioned from a deeply introverted anxious young adult with a persistent stammer, to a relatively outgoing person who is capable of clear communication, the secret is caring less and forgetting that you exist.

There are steps though to get there:

• Look at a person. De-age them back to when they were a shy or excited or inquisite toddler. That's their base model. Anything built on that is just extra wisdom or fluff or bluster.
• Talk to people like you would an innocent child, just use more grownup words.
• Cheat questions:
  • "How was your day today" "what did you get up to" "hows your upcoming week looking"
• Cheat responses:
  • "nice!" "well done!" "oh damn"
• Cheat moves:
  • Eye contact. Look at people in the eye, then look away when describing something, then look them in the eye again.
  • Nodding: Make nodding gestures as they respond to you
  • Hands: Gesture with your hands when you describe something.
  • Smile: You don't need to smile, but it helps. You can look away when you do it.
• Listening helps but is top-tier and isn't a requirement
• Learn to build connections through topics though. If they're talking about cats, remember your dog.
• Signal it's your turn: I suck at this and wait for gaps, which usually means I forget what I wanted to say, but you can signal in other ways
  • Yes: Finger gun and a nod whilst inhaling
  • No: Polite laugh and a head shake whilst exhaling
  • Random: if someone won't stop, they need to be stopped. Just jump in with your crab story, who cares.

This should hopefully get you along the way to forgetting that you exist in a conversation, and it should become second nature after a while.

Sounds like you have aphantasia. Wish more research was done on it, I only learned about it when I was randomly talking with my friends and one of them said they couldn't imagine an image.

I'm stuck with the ability to imagine complete scenes but not be able to draw what I imagine haha

One time I did mushrooms and thought about an apple and I kinda saw it and was amazed. I've never been able to do it again though

Try concentrating on your breathing.