Man who revealed what it was like 'being ugly' on YouTube finds love with woman who commented

That sounds like a lot of work. I'm tryna win the Powerball instead...

healthily

Thank you for using this word. Many seem to have forgotten its existence, in more ways than one.

Doesn't always work. Also this is likely me problem, but how do you get over people being judgemental in gym (about appearance/phyiscal capabilities)? It often scares me off from going to a gym.

Oh, do they? Interesting.

If I were him I would want to lose the mullet too, but he still looks better with it than I do with my bald spot.

It's one of the ugly truths of human existence, that most people won't admit.

"Looks" absolutely play a large role in inter-human relationships. But since it carries a lot of unpleasant things most people don't want to admit, they either ignore it, or outright lie about it to make themselves feel better.

The research has been done "pretty" people earn more, get more promotions, and are generally more successful at life.

Not to say your life is over if you're not pretty. But there is a clear advantage.

The thing to focus on is that there are many different kinds of people in the world. I grew up with a disability, and it didn't take me long to figure out that there are people you'll meet who just hate you for not being what they consider to be "normal." There's nothing you can do - they're just going to hate you. But, I eventually found that there are also people who would never dream of doing such a thing, and will treat you neutrally until they get to know you, and will treat you well after that if you treat them well.

Yes, the assholes of the world will always be there, and they'll make you feel like shit, but the more you can dismiss them as simply being judgemental assholes who know nothing about you, the more you'll be able to see all the people who will treat you fairly. Sure, if you've got a terrible personality, then even those people will want to have nothing to do with you, but if you control the things you can control, there are a lot of people in the world who will see that and think well of you for it.

I had similar experiences in my youth and it definitely warped my perception of self-worth. It took a long time to overcome.

I didn't think I was ugly because I thought I was ugly. I thought I was ugly because no one wanted anything to do with me for reasons I couldn't comprehend.

I don't want to offend you or anyone in any way, I just wonder if it could have been a case of neurodiversity (you being neurodivergent in a way socializing didn't come as natural as for others).

In my case, I understood my own differences a little late. I was rejected a couple of times because I was apparently showing-off. I connected the dots years later: I was being too effusive and intense, which was read as arrogance or cockiness.

A friend of mine struggled with his autism. People during his school years thought he was grumpy (or worse), when in reality he was having a hard time coping with external stimuli and information.

People can see something is different, but many (even as adults) are not kind about the explanation. Instead of thinking that you are a shy person (or whatever trait they are judging), they might think you think you're better than them or whatever.

It's funny how many people default for an option in which the "weird" person is a bad person somehow, but there's probably some evolutionary adaptations to partially blame...

I also noticed how "pretty" people didn't have anywhere near as hard of a time socializing as I did. They were allowed to have bad personalities. Even if I was as kind and helpful as I could possibly be I'd never be treated the same way as a "pretty" person would.

Same as my last paragraph. It's human nature to make judgments based on taste, on personal preferences, etc. "Pretty privilege" is real, and we should outgrow it, but... yeah. It even affects people deemed attractive as they cannot trust the same, they cannot escape things like comparisons, etc. Let's not talk about the bullying for the other side. It's vicious.

I hope you're okay after that experience.

So relatable! ..sad.

Interesting, is it possible to find oneself ugly while being loved? Maybe I am narcissistic in that I don't find myself that ugly, but many women do.

How dare you include the great Michael Sheen in this

There are 2 types of people…

Don't forget clothes. That t shirt is a sack.

If you’re over 6’ the “how tall are you” is either the first or second question on every date along with “what do you do for work”

It’s kinda sad how predictable we can be as animals

They were tall, and I'm not disputing the whole "attractive people are more attractive" idea. I don't think that comfortable - confidence vibe comes from looks, you can be good looking and very insecure about your looks, uncomfortable because everyone is looking at you, and I'm sure Tall Paul was comfortable enough with his looks to make money off them but didn't have it.

You can also get that kind of confidence by not worrying about where you fall on the attractiveness scale. I like to think I'm that way. If I wanted to I could definitely pick out things that might make me ugly, but I don't worry about it. I care more about the interactions I have with people than I do about how I physically look. The only things about my appearance that give me a degree of confidence are just things that amuse me, like that I always wear the same color scheme or that my normal and facial hair differ in color and texture.

I can think of at least two of my friends who also share the quality of being comfortable and self accepting despite not being physically attractive, and I really enjoy being friends with them.

You get that kind of confidence by not giving a shit about what other people think in terms of your physical attractiveness. I don't think I'm especially good looking. I also couldn't give less of a shit. Which is why I have the confidence to have the facial hair of a 19th century president. Because a mutton chops beard is fucking awesome. I'm married, but I wouldn't even care if I was single. I'm keeping my mutton chops.

• Finds unicorn in reality.
• "No, no—but this doesn't change reality."

This is true. I think I could probably get it up for anyone who’s truly awesome.

Oh, shit, that's right, make up is chemically corrosive to men's skin, we can't use it.

Well, I hate to break it to ya, but not every woman is going to get to marry a 6-6-6 just like not every man is going to marry a 10.

Additionally, most women would probably be better off marrying a man who WANTS to date them rather than trying to get one who doesn't.

And someone's broken heart!

Sorry but can you show me? This is so relatable

Honestly I would rather be lonely than be the guy that makes women uncomfortable by hitting on them.

Hitting the gym and a little more thought into his dressing?

What are you a womanizer red pill guru?! Next thing you know this guy is spinning 5 plates of spaghetti.

A tan would make him look less like a corpse

no ive just been lucky to meet truly beautiful and gorgeous people who are not conventionally considered “attractive.”

thanks for proving my point champ

Not quite... 16k on a Skyrim video I made when I was in my 20's where I just spend 15 minutes calling a dude on the TES forums dumb. The comments keep equating me to Jonah Hill, specifically his character from Superbad.

That's good right?

Yeah.... There's a hell of a lot more than that needed. Honesty and respect are my middle names, yeah my parents are weird, and that gets me pretty much nowhere as far as success with women go.

I always see it as "being nice, honest, friendly" are like pickles on a sandwich. You want the sandwich, if you like pickles then having them is a bonus, but you wanted the (insert main portion of sandwich here). Not having the pickles is fine too as it's not the main thing you were after.

Yes, but a lot of women don't appreciate it either.

Was he a monk? Because that sounds familiar.