Thanks bro

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias

I also made most of those shots I didn't take

In my mind

Wayne Gretzky

Nobody has to ask anyone out, its not compulsory. Women do ask potential dates out, so do men. Its pretty irrelevant who the one doing the asking is - the point is not to put the onus on one gender but that if you - whoever you are - don't ask, then you'll never know.

She could ask you out. But if you just wait you're giving up your initiative. Use your agency.

You're overthinking it. I know because I do the same. But realistically most women are quite relieved when you can take a kind "no" in stride because the bar is so low in this regard.

If you accept rejection with dignity, it's not that big a deal. Don't be a creeper. It's not that embarrassing. And if your friend group is cruel about it, that's good to know. They'd be assholes in that case, and you probably want to find out they're assholes in a low stakes situation.

If you've asked in a friendly way, without putting stress on her, and accepted the 'no' without making a fuss and in the same friendly way, it doesn't tend to cause difficulty in my experience.

Send me her number. Because she clearly knows Tau are the only good guys in Warhammer.

Haha blue fishmen go pewpewpew

Tell the neckbeard that "M'Lady" is pronounced "Malady." It's hilarious, especially if it's in front of the woman he was harassing.

lmao leeeenux

"awesome, I've always wanted to get into it but none of my friends wanted to. would you mind introducing me to the game sometime?"

just have a couple thousand dollars ready in case she says yes again.

I can’t even lie I thought the same

Feels like it sometimes NGL

Very sure.

I harbor no ill will to the dude tho. He is not the reason my ex is the way she is.

That would have been a better ending.

And quite possibly a viable ending. He's a nerd, I'm a nerd. He plays Warhammer 40k I paint Warhammer 40k minis. He likes to act, I used to like to act. He works out. I started working out.

Hell, we might be the kind of dudes to be actually good friends. My ex would probably use the connection to try and get with him, and he could like turn her down. That'd be more awesome than I could ever imagine.

That's absolute nonsense. Your body produces a lot of creatine every day. Like, it's what the majority of arginine in your diet goes to making. The science is a bit iffy on whether it helps you lifting. There are some quite convincing studies that it helps cognitive function in vegetarians. Vegetarians don't get creatine in their diet, they have to make it themselves. If the diet is a bit poor in arginine as well then it makes sense that they are slightly deficient. If you get most of your protein from whey they you will also have a low creatine / arginine diet and a supplement makes sense.

Creatine works as an energy buffer in cells. There might only be a couple of seconds worth of energy in ATP but I seem to remember that creatine-P gives the cell up to a minute of energy. IIRC especially important in neurons because they don't perform anaerobic production of energy from glucose.

That's what I thought too.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/drugs-supplements-creatine/art-20347591

Plus the stuff is cheap. And its not a stimulant.

Creatine helps to retain water in muscles though?

If you dig through my comment history I'm sure I've given the whole story in various bits and pieces with more details and less details.

Essentially we were young. I ignored so many red flags, started thinking with my weiner, she love bombed me, I did what she wanted, she cheated, we separated then tried to make it work, and I later found out she had either not ended the affair or kept it to sexting only and low and behold dick pics.

It's a sad story, but also a very good lesson to not listen to never stick your dick in crazy.

Don't forget the most important 2:

• Be attractive
• Don't be unattractive

This. Also, don't put them on the spot. If unsure, give your number and let them decide. If she's interested, she'll text, if not you haven't forced her to make a decision on the spot.

Gotta say, this looks like a recipe for hamstringing yourself. Be confident. Be respectful. Accept that you'll get rejected, sometimes harshly, and that you just have to get back out and try again.

Like, seriously, you shouldnt introduce yourself to a woman at a party who is having a drink? I know we're on Lemmy, but that's still a pretty autistic take on human social interactions.

oh totally. my wife is gorgeous, and she spent a bit too much time in our social circles single because everyone (myself included) was too intimidated to ask her out. we were friends for ages, she started giving me a hard time about having her number for like eight years but never asking her on a date, my ego wasn't going to stand for that and here we are.

It is, but they are also right.

Cathartic for those struggling or feeling insecure.

But somewhere along the way we broadly all stopped understanding the very nature of "catharsis" and just decided that anything that makes us feel a certain way MUST be some kind of fundamental truth and now will be our life direction.

There is such a thing as funny incel propaganda. And let's not act like beauty doesn't make the game easier, It's mostly that incel think that's the only factor because they tend to be very shallow themselves.

+1 for using "you're" instead of what the chap above did

The best advice is "women are people too, not some mystical being from outer space". They feel the same emotions, they get hungry, they get horny, they get anxious or shy too."

Look for people who think similarly to you. I found it that I mesh well with other people who are on the spectrum, have adhd, etc. Ultimately nothing matters when you can't approach someone, or go out of your way to find hobbies where you can find people with the same interests as you. So if you can't get over that (or accept a rejection), it won't work.

Also, don't focus on a single person, especially someone who doesn't return feelings / attention, or doesn't have time for you at all. Even the busiest person will find a tiny bit of time to meet with you if they really like you. Obsessing over a single person for years isn't the way to find love. Quoting a song by Tim Minchin, "your love is one in a million, but it doesn't mean that the other 999 999 loves wouldn't be equally nice". If you find someone who returns your feelings, you mesh with well, hold on for dear life.

Like what exactly?

You must have asked a woman, ime that's the "big hint" that I'm the idiot for missing. No if you're a dude you have to pursue them but also not do that at all.

shallow fucking

is that what the kids call "just the tip" nowadays?

I mentioned it because I've personally chatted up someone wearing one before, so it does totally work at certain nerdy conventions, as does carrying a Horga'hn.

Why would you need a 100% success rate? Meanwhile, not asking has something like a greater than 90% failure rate in the current western dating paradigm.

The thing is: If you ask her out (in real life, not through some shitty app) and you are not super creepy or awkward about it you already have an advantage above 90% of the dudes who write weird messages to her... it's the date when you find out more about her

Note that he says "if you like her", not "if you think a stranger is hot"

This entirely speaks to a situation where you like someone, know their interests,etc, but you're nervous about ruining the relationship you do have. AKA my entire high school experience lol

[queue super hero intro]

Here comes the Crimson Chin!

Chimplantees

I should get Henry Cavill in me

Problem is, the same girl who finds it attractive will find it annoying in a week or two, and all of a sudden that thing she liked makes me a jerk.

If you can only talk about one thing with any level of passion, yeah people are gonna get bored.

I think a lot of younger folk online really misconstrue what it means to "get hobbies" or "just put yourself out there" and other tired cliches.

It doesn't mean having X hobby and just standing there around people is going to change how women look at you. It means you have to train your OWN brain to be more comfortable expressing yourself and finding new ways to feel about your situation or interests.

Basically, everyone whines endlessly how they wish they were someone else, but you can literally change who you are on a fundamental level by changing your environment enough and forcing yourself to feel new things. Brains just do that. But people resist the moment they feel something starting to change inside them and recoil as your ego tries to preserve itself. Then they make up reasons why they didn't commit to change and why they can't let go of their old-self.

Asking women out is kind of necessary to the process, even if she says no.

What other tactic is there to get a date? Being told no doesn’t mean it’s a bad strategy, it just means that person isn’t interested in dating you, at which point you move on and ask the next person you feel attracted enough to want to date and if they are interested then they’ll say yes and if not they’ll say no and you move on and repeat. Nobody owes you a yes, regardless of who you are, and I guarantee you Cavill has been turned down before.

Well, turns out I'm not gay afterall, because he does nothing for me.

Imaginary and vengeful... Got it.

Like dating a child. It is gross.